If only I knew then what I know now…….

To my girls:
*Watch the movie “He’s Just Not That In To You”!
*Boys will say anything to get into your pants.
*If you have to excuse any of his behavior….run!
*He should always be kind, gentle, and a man of integrity. I knew your daddy was a great man when he would call me first out of the blue, or he would follow through when he said he was going to.
*If a man truly wants to be with you, he will move heaven and earth to be there.
*Only be with a man who is worthy of your amazing spirit and heart. Don’t give your heart away to any man less than wonderful. Each time you give your heart away, that is less of a piece you can give to your future husband. It is a piece which will take time to heal. There are no take backs when you give your heart away.
*He must make you feel special. Not just special at the moment he is with you, but always and everywhere. *Never be with a man to try and change him, rescue dating.
*Don’t put into a relationship more than you are getting back.
*If he keeps asking for money, tell him God didn’t create you to be a sugar mama.
*As with anyone, pay more attention to their actions then what they have to say.
*Find out if they have ambition in life. If their only goal is to be king of the trailer park, drinking cheap bear on the porch (I really did have a friend who said this)…..please run. Only be with a man who has goals and dreams.

I know it may be hard, but please listen to me when I don’t like a boyfriend. I have experienced the good, the bad, and the complete asshole. I DO know what I’m talking about, really. Realize having a boyfriend isn’t why you are on this earth. It doesn’t give you your identity. I had a boyfriend tell me once, he wasn’t looking for a companion but a compliment. I have always thought that is the best goal for a relationship. This may be perhaps one of the most important aspects of life to be discerning with. I have made some pretty bad choices and pray constantly you will be smarter and make better choices than I ever did.

I am constantly amazed that God trusted you with me. I pray every day I am worthy to raise you, to teach you the lessons to accomplish your purpose in this world, to love you the way you deserve to be loved, and to let you love life. I believe God has put me on this earth to be your mommy. I feel blessed to know my purpose in life so early on and hope you get that opportunity too. I know each of you has a special purpose in this life.

Chandlur, when you were in my tummy, I knew God created you for something very special completely outside of myself and the situation you saved me from. I have no idea what it is, however, I am very excited to see as you grow up. Your natural knack for sports and love of music make me wonder if you will be a star someday.

My Zettie, I knew after I had you, you were something special. You are our miracle girl, even the doctors say that. It is a miracle that you are alive and better yet, you have no long lasting problems. Your sweet body saved the life of your brother and sister. I believe this family has been created for greatness. You are here to raise the next generation to even more greatness. You have such a maternal instinct I love to watch.

Vahn, you crack me up everyday. You remind me of exactly what your daddy would have been like when he was your age. We think you may have the gift of giving or kindness. You are always sharing what you have and being incredibly thoughtful. Are you going to bring a smile to people’s face much like your daddy? Watching how your brain works and your love of books, reminds me of Uncle Scotty’s brains which I hope you got. Oh my sweet Chicken!

My little Flamingo girl, Adalyn, I sure did go through a lot to bring you into this world. Everyday is certainly worth it. You are a child all of your own. You are so different from any of my other babies. We think you want to make your mark. When we thought we had it figured out, you throw us a curve ball we have to figure out. When you were in my tummy I had a vision of you. You were in your late teens with beautifully dark, silky, long hair. You were absolutely beautiful! You threw your head back, opened your mouth with perfect white teeth, and laughed a loud infectious laugh. This caused those around you to laugh too. We can already see you are going to be a people person.

As I always tell you, no matter how old you will be, you will always be my babies. Each of you is so different from the rest. We can see each of your strengths and weaknesses and it’s incredible they are all so different. I cannot believe how lucky I am, and I hope I am around many, many years to meet your grandchildren.